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Beautiful Chaotic Lunchdate ๐Ÿ’—

Hello Beautiful People,
It’s been a couple of very busy weeks the last two weeks. And luckily, mostly fun outings, great company and beautiful weather. I was lucky enough to go in The Sydney Color Run with a small team of the beautiful Wonder Women that I know, I’ve been to bbqs, playgroups and Oztag.  However today I was lucky enough to be invited to a lunch/play date with some beautiful women that I know, Doctors and Nurses from my work, who are also new mums. 

I decided to go at the last minute as I knew I would be the only one there with a toddler and a baby. I still haven’t placed master two in any form of Childcare, for a few reasons. One, I haven’t liked any that I’ve seen so far. Two, I didn’t want to put him in care the minute his baby sister was born because I didn’t want him to feel like he was being palmed off because of the new baby. Three, I figured if I was going to be at home with bubba he may as well stay at home with us as well. Four, have you seen the cost of Childcare?! And Five, I’m just not sure I’m ready to let anyone else look after him….. That is until today’s lunch date…
Myself, master two and baby princess enjoyed a relaxed 40 minute drive to a lovely restaurant with an indoor children’s play land to meet our friends. Once there master two was his usual seriously hyped up overdrive excitable self. In other words he ran away from me the minute we got there! My friends of course were amazing and accomodating and looked after bubba on the several occasions I had to suddenly run off after speedy toddler. I barely got to sit down and chat or enjoy these beautiful women’s company or even really meet their babies! I spent the majority of my time with two year old in the indoor play land. I even finished feeding bubba in the play land so I could continue supervising toddler. There were a few moments when I felt like a few other parents may have thrown a sympathetic glance my way as it truly felt like I had the most energetic chaotic toddler in the whole place. 
I remarked to my friends that it was hard juggling both bubba and toddler, especially trying to meet both their needs. To this one of my beautiful friends said ‘of course and especially catering to a toddlers developmental needs at the same time as looking after a baby’…… Then minutes later another beautiful Mumma I didn’t know said to me in the play land, ‘two year olds are a lot of work aren’t they, especially when you can tell they are getting bored by their destructive behaviour’ she was looking at her own son when she said this….. But it made me wonder…….
At the end of lunch, the lunch I barely got to eat, chat or even sit down at, one beautiful friend gave each of us mums a homemade bib, they’re so beautiful. And another beautiful mum paid for our lunch and we said our goodbyes. I felt so spoilt.

Both baby and toddler left the restaurant easily enough and were asleep within five minutes of being in the car. Whilst driving home I got a bit emotional thinking about how my boy is probably a little bored and ready for some stimulating Childcare and I probably really deserve to have a nice non chaotic Lunchdate occasionally! But mostly I’m just always in awe about how blessed I am in my life to have such beautiful children, despite the chaos, and to know such beautiful people as these women. Even new mums can give me sound advice to remind me about my choices in life. It’s so brilliant to be blessed with this beautiful chaotic life. So I shall continue my Childcare quest with a renewed sense of optimism. Thank you beautiful mummas for your genuine kindness ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ’– 

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Beautiful Day Missing Workย 

Hello beautiful people, today I really miss work….. I miss the abusive ice addicts, the elderly confused patients, the complicated early pregnancy patients, the trauma patients (I really miss them!) and I miss using my brain more than it takes to negotiate kiddies behaviours…. I’ve got so much to do but so little desire to do any of it! The house can stay messy, the kids can play half dressed in the backyard, the food shopping can wait, and the dog can wait another week to be washed…. I have zero fucks to give today about domestic life….. I really miss work….. However I know better than most how fast time goes so I’ll just sit here in the beautiful Sydney winter sun sulking about how I can’t have the best of both worlds yet and enjoy the privilege of being able to stay at home with my babies for as long as I like……

#imisswork #emergencynurse #mylove #mylife #myeverything #nurselife #shiftworklife #sydneylocal #sydneywinter #sydneylife #savinglives #maternityleave #overthinking #needtorelax #mummabear #zerofucksgiven #nooshasbeautifulpeople #likeaboss ๐Ÿ˜โ˜บ๏ธ๐Ÿ‘Š๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ’ž

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Beautiful Babies at Playgroupย 

Hello beautiful people, Happy Monday! I’ve finally found a local playgroup that I really really like! So I wrangled master two and bubba princess in to top gear and left the house this morning by 9:30am We got to this lovely playgroup and within minutes my warrior prince had already tipped out a full box of building blocks, container of pencils, had drawn on himself with texta and went on a nature hunt with a magnifying glass whilst all the other kiddies sat on the mat for story time…… This is what my maternity leave looks like…..๐Ÿ˜ He cannot be tamed, which is why I don’t send him to daycare, I’m scared they won’t have the patience for him that I do ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜
Master two did however manage to sit still for long enough to enjoy some excellent play dough time! Great for his fine motor skills ๐Ÿ˜Š And a five minute break for this Mumma bear having to chase after him! ๐Ÿ˜ฌ
And whilst her big brother played with the play dough the little poppet tried to eat it.. Parenting for the win….. ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜Šโ˜บ๏ธ๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ’– 

#playdough #mylove #mylife #myeverything #sydneylocal #sydneylife #australianlife #myprincess๐Ÿ‘‘ #nooshasbeautifulpeople #warriorprince #sydneywinter #australianlife #australianwinter #emergencynurse #shiftworker #mumlife #myprince๐Ÿ‘‘โค๏ธ๐Ÿ‘Š๐Ÿผ

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Beautiful Parenting โค๏ธ

Hello Beautiful People,
I’ve noticed over the last few years of parenting that it seems important for parents, mums in particular to identify or subscribe to a certain parenting style.
Examples: the helicopter parent, the fit parent, the free range parent, the attachment parent…..the I’m barely f$&@ing surviving parent….. And so on…….
There are that many books, blogs, vlogs and movies on how to raise kids, it’s no wonder parents get overwhelmed and confused about which is the right way…….. 
I know you’re all thinking this b$&@ here is going to tell us there is no right way, there is only your way and whatever you’re doing is ok if it works for you and you’re babies…….
Well you’re wrong…… I’ll tell you why because as a nurse, a Mumma bear, a kinship carer, an active community member with a husband who’s an emergency service worker, I’m going to tell you there is definitely a wrong way to raising children…… You know how I know because in all my roles throughout life, I’ve seen it! 
It’s actually incredibly sad and incredibly simple….. 
The most obvious wrong way to parent children is to blatantly ignore their needs…..
Babies are born completely dependent on you. They cry as their first and only form of communication. If you choose to actively ignore their crying you are essentially telling them that you are not interested in meeting their needs. Studies have shown that babies who are left to cry repeatedly have higher stress levels and can end up with trust and attachment issues…..
I’m not saying I never let my babies cry, obviously if I’m going to the toilet and they’re crying they’ll have to wait a minute or if it’s a tired grizzle that’s fine. 
I mean, say I’m sitting at the dinner table, dishevelled and the house is a pig sty and two of the babies are sitting at the table crying at me, I’m not going to behave like an asshat and continue feeding my fat face whilst ignoring them and worse yet let another family member film this behaviour because they think it’s funny…….
There is nothing funny at all about ignoring your babies cries whilst they try and get your attention….. It’s actually heartbreaking…..
Children from birth, to probably I dare say forever, NEED consistent unconditional love coupled with clear set boundaries and guidelines…. Sensible safe boundaries and guidelines, ones in which they can grow and explore yet know they are safe and have a solid foundation to fall back on when they are unsure.
I’ve been told I’m overprotective of my children or that I wrap them in cotton wool….
Ask our local children’s hospital, I’m pretty sure they’d tell you that statement isn’t true ๐Ÿ˜
I’ve also been praised a lot about how kind, polite, lovely and patient they are……๐Ÿ˜Š
What I know is that the children we’ve encountered through our careers and lives that display ‘undesirable’ behaviour are the saddest children. The ones who haven’t been given unconditional love, who haven’t been given safe boundaries….. The ones whose needs haven’t been met….. 
I said it before, I’ll say it again, it’s heartbreaking when adults who choose to have children then go and choose not to meet that child’s needs…… It’s a need….Not a want.. 
An overtired ‘unruly’ bubba needs your patience, needs your calm adult abilities to nurture and soothe the whirlwind of emotions that they are feeling, that they do not understand yet! And this goes for EVERY age, even (especially) teenagers need you as the adult to be calm, in control and nurturing as you guide them through a very challenging time in their lives……
I swear…. a lot…. I let my kids eat junk food (probably more than they should ๐Ÿ˜), I’m not pushy about success in sports or academia, I let them stay up late and have random days of school (teachers hate me, sorry! I’d probably homeschool if I had more patience โ˜บ๏ธ) 
However, I’m consistent with LOVE โค๏ธ 
I have always hugged them, told them I love them, told them I’m always here for them no matter what! I’ve always listened and tried to meet all their needs. I’ve always stuck to what I thought was age appropriate developmental care.
I believe in doing this, these beautiful humans have felt safe, secure, guided and loved enough to grow in to these awesome human beings ๐Ÿ˜Š
I’ve never subscribed to one particular parenting type but my deep motherly instincts have shown me that consistency, patience, availability and unconditional love are the keys to raising lovely mini humans โค๏ธ
If you didn’t want to commit to loving them unconditionally, through the good and the really tough times (yes I’ve been through them, often) then you probably shouldn’t have had them. ๐Ÿ˜•
Oh shock horror someone telling others how to raise their kids…..!!
Well I do it in the hope that maybe one person will read this and think “hey yeah maybe I should chill a bit of make more of an effort to help my bubba feel loved and supported”……
It’s amazing how much easier life is with kiddies when they feel loved, respected, nurtured and understood……
Believe me…. I’m raising six kiddies in this organised chaos and the only real challenge is the newborn sleep deprivation….. The rest is a bit of a breeze if the foundation of your parenting is unconditional love ๐Ÿ˜Šโค๏ธ
And that is my two cents on how to raise the next few generations of beautiful people ๐Ÿ˜Š
You can never love a child too much ๐Ÿ’—
Peace ๐Ÿ’–

New Study: Extravagant Affection in Infancy Leads to Healthier, Happier, More Relational & Moral Adults

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Beautiful World Breastfeeding Week โค๏ธ

Hello Beautiful People, 
As you all may know this week is World breastfeeding week!! And yes I’m all about promoting, educating and raising awareness about important women’s health issues like breastfeeding. This week is about normalising breastfeeding! That means addressing important issues like not sexualising it, not expecting women to cover up, not denying what is a natural process for lots of mothers and babies! It’s not a week to proclaim that breastfeeding mothers are better than those that formula feed! Over the last few decades formula companies have done their utmost to undermine the importance of breastfeeding in an attempt to make millions off their products!! If they were just about feeding babies they would be not for profit organisations, however I digress……… 
I’ve breastfed and formula fed all my kids at various times. Both are challenging yes! However this week is just about acknowledging those challenges associated with breastfeeding……. So imagine my surprise when Constance Hall blocked me from her page after questioning her on her post about International Breastfeeding Week? 
Con wrote acknowledging International Breastfeeding Week and then went on to talk about all the awesome formula feeding mums out there…… I have no problem with this as such because I myself have done both but I was merely saying that you can support and promote one cause without undermining another?! 
Well I said something along the lines of saying “what about formula feeding mums on breastfeeding week is like saying #notallmen when discussing DV”……. Anyway something like that…… Next comment I made was questioning Con when she told a poster that she overheard nurses and midwives being rude to mothers who couldn’t breastfeed….. I never said it didn’t happen, I just asked if she made a complaint about it? She didn’t reply to me….. Her sister did though, she said something along the lines of “yes she heard the nurses say that and no she did not complain because she was a first time mum worried about her prem baby”……….
So I would have replied to that but wasn’t allowed to because I’d been blocked by then….
Hhhhmmmm so it seems Con is only all about supporting Queens if they support her unconditionally and subscribe to all her beliefs…. How about we all support each other in our different actions and beliefs….
Supporting one cause does not mean you’re undermining another…….
Yes unfortunately some nurses/midwives can be rude as shit…….. Being a nurse I’ve seen it first hand and if I see it I call it out straight away!
As a patient I’ve made several complaints before in regards to shit treatment, especially after my shit emergency C-section!
I’ll always stick up for myself and all the beautiful people struggling out there!!
And I’ll always endeavour to respect those with a difference of opinion to me. Further to that a little healthy banter about those differences of opinion can help each other to see another point of view……. 
I’m all about being enlightened by others and helping to enlighten them in some way……
That is of course if I don’t get blocked for my opinion…….. ๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ˜œ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ’—โค๏ธ๐Ÿ’–

#normalisebreastfeeding

#worldbreastfeedingweek

#brelfie

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Beautiful Faker ๐Ÿ’—

Hello Beautiful People, 
Ok what I wanted to say today has been plaguing me for a while…… I’m always getting compliments about how well behaved my kids are how cool calm and collected a mother I am….. It’s always nice to hear but………
I’d like to shout this out!!!! I’m a complete 

f$&@ing fraud!! I’m not calm!! I’m faking that shit!! Inside I’m a wound up bundle of nerves as much as the next Mumma bear!! I’m one more god damn sleepless night away from complete and utter PND….. I’m one more shitty nappy….. No return text or call for several hours from young adult or teen away from a complete breakdown!! 
I want to take a f$&@ing shit or shower in peace!! I want people to actually recognise that I might be struggling, feeling isolated or lonely!! I want to be invited to the god damn wedding, birthday party, brunch or coffee even if you know as much as I do I probably won’t make it because of babies….. It just feels nice to know that I’ve been thought about by other adult humans…………๐Ÿ˜Œ
I want to apologise profusely to all the Mumma bears out there who I’ve ever offended with my higher than though opinions on parenting!! I know I have a Nursing Degree and I’ve got a lot of kids so you’d think I’d be all over this shit!! And all the lecturing and advice I’ve given so many parents on parenting should really mean something and be useful somehow….. Right?! At least that’s what you’d think?! 
But let me tell you this!! There is no one style, one method, one technique to parenting that fits every parent and every baby!! Every single time I get preggers I think, “yep I’m all over this shit!” Then out pops this tiny beautiful mini being who it seems, sole purpose in life is to ruin me and at the same time make me helplessly completely and utterly in love ๐Ÿ˜ณ
I was wrong for ever thinking my way was better than yours!! I was wrong for not recognising or understanding your anxiety!! 
This whole parenting thing can be terrifying, each and every time!! Every baby is different and therefore every parenting experience can bring with it new challenges……. I’m sorry I was such a judgey bitch…… 

We are all struggling in some way…………๐Ÿ˜ž
So today I’m openly admitting that this Mumma bear definitely doesn’t know everything! And despite giving loads of other women breastfeeding advice, sleep and settling advice, developmental age appropriate care advice and acting like it’s all so easy it’s actually really really really not!!
This is baby no.6 in my house and in her short three months on this planet I’m here to admit that she’s played me good! I’m exhausted, I’m admitting defeat! In the last three and a half months I’ve taken her to ED once, seen the GP at least three times, phoned Karitane twice, Tresillian twice, The ABA once and texted and called several (nurse/doctor) friends for sleeping/settling, feeding, behaviour and ailments advice………… 
Hhhhmmmm does that sound like a cool calm collected mummy to you?! And I’ll have you know I’ve probably behaved like this with at least three out of the six kiddies!
The post natal period and beyond in to baby’s first year of life coupled with sleep deprivation can be a real bitch! Some days not only do I feel like I’ve lost my entire identity but that moment after I’ve just stuck my hand in to a toilet that still has a poo in it to grab out a toy car that my two year old is screaming his head off for, I suddenly remember that I am still human and probably should think a little more before I act. So I put screaming baby down in cot, flush toilet, thoroughly wash my hands and toy car then placate two year old. Remember to put my breast away post breastfeeding this time before calling teenagers out of their rooms to ask them what they want for dinner, saves us all the embarrassment of me standing there tit hanging out…. All the while thinking “stay calm, you’ve got this, the tough times won’t last……. long”…….
So again I say, I’m sorry if I ever looked down on you! I’m sorry if my way of coping is to fake it till I make it and it makes everyone think I’ve really got my shit together better than they have! I’m straight up on mother f$&@ing struggle street right there with you!!
But you know what I do know that always keeps me going…… How freaking blessed I truly am…… Because I’ve been on the other side too…… The side that doesn’t give sleep and settling advice, the side that holds hands of those with broken hearts…… The side that gives silent reassuring glances whilst holding back tears of empathy, advice on second chances, pamphlets on counselling and support networks….. Watching broken hearted parents walking out the hospital doors…..Knowing they may consider themselves parents no more….. Due to the loss of a baby they’ll never meet or the baby they got to hold for only a short while……๐Ÿ’”
I’m know I’m a fraud…. But if that’s what I need to be to get by then so be it…… It doesn’t mean I love my life or my mini beautiful people any less…….. 
Shout out to all the beautiful parents struggling right there along with me……..๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ‘Š๐Ÿผ
Today I chose to continue to fake it, to ignore the mess, the misery, the chaos and relax in the breezy sunny afternoon with my beautiful babes, focusing on the positives and feeling blessed and you know what? It actually worked….. I got this! You got this! We got this โ˜บ๏ธ๐Ÿ’—
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Beautiful Marshall Stone ๐Ÿ’™

Hello Beautiful People, 
For what it’s worth, I’ll start by saying, so far I’ve been lucky enough to have pretty damn good teenage parenting experiences! I’m not sure what all the hype is about how teenagers are so hard?…… So I’d like to introduce you to this guy ๐Ÿ˜œ My eldest son Marshall Stone. (So named after a rapper and a guitarist โ˜บ๏ธ) 
I was in my mid twenties when Marshall was born. My pregnancy with him was pretty cruisey other than some morning sickness. My birth was amazing! Best one I’ve had, six hour labour, no drugs, no tears, birth centre with hubby and a midwife. So calm quiet and beautiful. This bubba came out not crying at all, unlike his daddy who was bawling, probably because we both have sisters and never thought we’d have a son ๐Ÿ˜‰. 
From the minute he was born he’s been our happiest, most calmest baby. As he’s gotten older he’s made me more worried about him because he’s got my overexcitable, I can do anything attitude. Which at times is great but has made him a target for some a$&@holes to bully him. I get upset about people giving him shit about his enthusiasm for things and do you know what this legend says “mum don’t let them worry cause their s$&t doesn’t bother me”. “I don’t like seeing you upset”.! 
Boom ๐Ÿ‘Š๐Ÿผ What a f$&@ing champion โค๏ธ 
Seriously when I hear people whinge about their teenagers I think, “how did I get so lucky”?! 
This awesome son of mine is like the perfect mix of me and his dad. He’s good at English, Computers and Music. He’s a brilliant singer. He’s kind, caring, extremely compassionate, a great big brother and in our house even known as the baby whisperer. All his siblings love being calmed and cuddled by him โค๏ธ 
Ok so there’s got to be a down side to this teenage man child right? Well yep, he’s as stubborn as a bull and whilst trying to remain calm and diplomatic he’ll argue his point of view, about anything, until he wins. It’s both bloody hilarious and infuriating at the same time ๐Ÿ˜ฌ 
He doesn’t subscribe to any stereotypical teenage trends or behaviours (except Pokemon Go but he’s been hard out in to Pokemon way before it was this popular) and his uniqueness is beautiful and inspiring to watch.
Especially his enthusiasm for gaming and cosplay!! Ummm hell yes I love having a kid that loves costumes! ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜œ๐Ÿ˜
This guy can be a little immature sometimes still but the majority of the time his sense of responsibility and caring nature make me feel so reassured. I honestly know he’s like his dad and would protect me and his siblings against anything. He’s actually pretty damn fearless which can be both a good thing and a bad thing. Oh except for his slight fear of heights, his rock climbing story is hilarious. Picture a man sized teenager being assisted down a rock face by the adult guide. 
We are so blessed to have such an awesome first son like Marshall and it’s been a bloody privilege to watch him grow so far. I so look forward to seeing the awesomeness he’ll be making out of his life to come ๐Ÿ˜Š
Stay as strong as you are, I think your name fits your strength of character perfectly ๐Ÿ˜ You’re an inspiration buddy and most definitely one of mine and I know our whole families fave beautiful people ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ‘Š๐Ÿผโค๏ธ๐Ÿ’™
(Now show us those muscles…. You better have read that the way we say it?! ๐Ÿ˜œ๐Ÿ˜‚)